The Man in My Life

I think it is safe to say that we all desire or have desired that someone be put in our path that we can love and cherish.

There have been moments in my own life when I have all but begged to have “my person”.
It hasn’t been until recently that I have accepted being just me. Wow, what a concept.
So I will wait.

What exactly am I waiting for? Well, I’d love to tell you. 

1. I want to love Him above all else.
That’s right, my sweet sweet Savior. Sorry daddy, you have been placed as the #2 man in my life (but who wouldn’t want to come in second to Jesus?).

Why would I ever seek an earthly relationship until I have fallen head over heels for someone who gave their life for me?

There is a saying that goes something like this: Dance with God and He will let the right guy cut it.
So for now, I choose to dance with my Lord.

2. I want to be the best version of me.

Proverbs 31? Yes that is real, for me anyways. I want to be a woman of virtue. Period.
If I want to attract a man of virtue, shouldn’t I be virtuous myself?

My favorite verse of that chapter is verse 30. It says, “charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord is worthy to be praised”.

I could be the most beautiful woman in the world on the outside, but if I am wretched on the inside then all that beauty is for nothing because guess what? When I am 100 years old and look like a bag of wrinkles with a side of gray hair, I’m probably not going to be all that good lookin’.

And the good news? If I am a woman of virtue that fears the Lord, then the beauty and the charm will never matter because He will be enough. And it is only through Him that we might attain a beautiful soul.
3. There is a time for everything. 

Except for bronchitis… Ain’t nobody got time for that. (If you didn’t catch that joke then you need to watch Sweet Brown on YouTube).

That’s all I need, what about you?

On the real, Ecclesiastes 3:1 says “There is a time for everything, a season for every activity under the heavens.” Right there it is.

He has planned the time, place, and season that I will find my mate. So I’m just going to leave that to Him and continue dancing.

The writer goes on to say this in verse 11, “He has made everything beautiful in its time…”

We are told to prepare our hearts and minds, just like a farmer is supposed to prepare his field for the harvest. Without proper plowing, sewing, and nurturing there would be no harvest. Just like if we don’t prepare ourselves for the things He has in store for us, then how will we ever expect to produce fruit and grow?

I don’t want the easy way out. I don’t want to settle, and I definitely don’t want someone settling for me. I want to be someone’s prize. I want to be loved like Christ loves His church. 

I don’t want to have a set of requirements that “my person” should meet, because I trust that God has made him exactly how he is supposed to be. Standards are conditional. Jesus didn’t say “Abby I will love you IF”, He just said “I love you”. And better yet, He never even said it, He showed it. That is unconditional love. 

As hard as is it to fathom loving someone for their soul and spirit, it is crucial, because remember charm is deceitful and beauty is passing. I didn’t say that, He did. 

So if you ask me if there is someone special in my life, my answer is yes. He is my friend, my Savior, and my rock. And I will dance with Him until He decides to let someone else cut in. 

If you are lonely and feel as if you are constantly searching, try dancing with the One that will fulfill your spirit and you will never feel alone.


2 thoughts on “The Man in My Life

  1. I really needed to read this tonight as this is something I myself have been struggling with, especially recently. We all want that one person who makes us forget all the bad relationships we’ve been in, or the jealously that we feel when we see that perfect couple out and about. However, as you said, he has a perfect time and place laid out for us! So, so, so thankful that I stumbled upon this post Abby! I feel as if the lord knew what he was doing when I clicked on your link! Your words have been such a blessing to me tonight and were the answers to a lot of the questions that I’ve been asking the lord about my love life, or lack there of! Haha! Keep writing girl, you’re such an amazing role model and I know the lord is working through you in so many amazing ways!


    1. Kristin,

      I am so glad that this post was helpful to you. We all struggle with this as ladies! Your encouraging words back to me have blessed my day. Thank you! To God be all the glory!


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